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PHQ | QUESTIONS FROM COMMUNITY: In this episode Joel and Antonia answer a question about getting into action as an INFJ.

 

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  • Taylor
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    Ha, well, if you’re Bruce Wayne, get yourself an Alfred to remind you when you have become too apathetic. Batman=total INFJ. Symbolic thinking “Become what you fear”, wants to fight for a better Gotham, but lapses into periods of “hibernation” when he sees no point in helping a city that doesn’t want him/ fears him/ never changes.

    For me having structure and rules works. Strict bedtime, limited internet hours, scheduled daily routines like running and eating breakfast. Also forcing myself out of the house, even if its going to the library to read, so long as I’m not stewing away in my room in my head, letting 10 hours pass staring at a computer screen. That’s when the apathy, distaste for the outside world, information obsession sets in. Its easier to face the world and move into action if you make going out in the world a daily habit.

    • Charis Branson
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      Thanks for the comment, Taylor! I’m not sure I agree with Batman being an INFJ. He seems like more of a Thinker – like an INTJ. That being said, typing fictional characters is fraught with peril. Everyone has their opinion and there’s a lot of guess work involved. 🙂

  • Tamagochi (INFJ)
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    Weirdly one thing that works for me is imagining myself from a third person view (like a Sims character) 🙂 or how a person I look up to would behave in this situation.

    You are spot on when talking about the importance of developing auxilary function. Fe seems scary because one has to go out and interact with people in order to exercise it. But speaking from experience, that was when the greatest breakthroughs have happened in my life.

    • Charis Branson
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      Thanks for the comment Tamagochi! I’m glad you have found a life-hack that works for you. 🙂

  • Taylor #2
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    Hi! So lately I have been finding self love and let me tell you, that is the key to being an INFJ. To knowing it’s okay that we feel so strongly. I think it’s brave how vulnerable I can be. I know my dark side and I am learning to forgive and let go. I am using my self love by helping other people learn self love. It has led me to the path I am on in life. I want to do motivational speaking, and own a summer camp, and write movie scripts. I want be strong both mentally and physically so I push myself to be the best I can be. When I put that out into the world, it returns happiness to me. My goal is to spread this happiness through self love and to give back. Afterall, happiness is contagious. I force myself to get out of the house. However I’m usually quiet and people watching, but I learn a lot and share some really amazing moments with strangers.

    Furthermore, I agree with the other Taylor. I need structure. I need for myself to be the best me, so I always put my needs first.

    Thank you Joel, Antonia, and Charis for guiding me through the crazy inner workings of an INFJ. It’s nice to know I’m not alone.

    • Charis Branson
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      Thank you Taylor #2! 😉 We always appreciate hearing when someone has begun the amazing journey of self love. You’re awesome!

    • Ariel Kim
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      Wow. This was really helpful. You described my pitfalls so accurately. I didn’t even realize it was an INFJ thing. Structure. Like you and the other Taylor said. Yeah, I realize my life kind of drifts into an oblivion when I fall away from it. So it’s definitely good to stick to it. Thank you for that.

  • Jesse Hampsch
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    I think the advice about focusing efforts on extraverted feeling is right on. I’ve spent a lot of time trying to develop my extraverted sensing, but I was constantly conflicted with the fact that my introverted intuition was CONSTANTLY checking my choices. This ended up being my “paralysis by analysis.” I wanted to DO, but my process of perceiving outcomes always won out.

    However, working with my extroverted feeling almost never conflicts with my intuitive process. When I really decide that I will work towards getting others needs met, I satisfy my desire for action while aligning it with my values and mental processes.

  • Jon
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    I think that linking a project to how to fulfill other people’s needs is definitely the key, however it’s not that simple. For me at least, fulfilling someones needs for the day, the week, or the year brings me little to no motivation. In fact fulfilling only one person’s needs doesn’t really do it for me. My motivations come from the big picture needs of society. I always look for what the world should be and why it isn’t that way. For me to truly feel fulfilled I need to fulfill the needs of everyone simultaneously with one act that creates a permanent change to humanity for the better.

    This probably has a lot to do with why I feel so dissatisfied with life. I have no idea how to do that and anything less makes me feel useless, hopeless, and extremely discouraged. I honestly feel like I’m losing my mind if I begin living a “normal” life. Even doing nothing is preferable to doing something of negligible consequence.

    • Brandalynn D
      Reply

      Words from my own heart Jon. I understand exactly how you feel.

    • Micah
      Reply

      Wow… scary how well I can relate to this comment.

    • Tory
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      I feel this so strongly. I feel this overpowering need to do something that helps humanity on a large scale and anything less feels mundane and useless.

      • Mike
        Reply

        I feel exactly the same way, Tory! I couldn’t have phrased it better myself!

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