Whether you’re a Sensor or an Intuitive, you have a ‘comfort zone’ of conversation. On top of that, your tendency will be to gravitate to the same ‘comfort zone’ as other people who share your learning style. If you’re in a relationship with someone of a different learning style, what’s the secret to explaining your preference and – even more importantly – identifying where they’re most comfortable?

Watch this short, 13 minute webinar to learn what (I believe) is the most helpful key to successful communication for both learning styles:

 

Ready to awaken your Intuition?
Click here
=>>

 

.

Showing 16 comments
  • janet
    Reply

    Congratulations on the birth of your baby, Antonia. What an exciting time for you – and good that you were able to make this video at a time that is most likely very busy for you. .

    I Reallydo Wish, however, that you didn’t use a cow, farm animals, and $$$$’s in your illustration.

    I am a vegan who just last night attended a lecture in Toronto where the author (Will Tuttle- an intuitive trailblazer) addressed the Very ISsue of ‘commodifying animals for money.

    In the book – ‘The World Peace Diet’ (said to be ‘the most important book of the 21st century – was #1 on Amazon – and whose author received ‘the courage of conscience award.) – and the lecture – he talks about our history –
    -10,000 years of oppression of women –
    -how our health (and also the health of our children) — is being completely compromised, –aniimals are seen as objects to be abused and consumed,
    and our environment destroyed, – through use of animals for food and their milk –
    (which is meant for their babies) – and reductionism in this his way. .

    This is a subject most dear to my heart, and – because of all of the above – i can’t watch the video, because – can see where it is going before i even watch it.

    Looking forward to your next (hopefully more neutral) video or instruction,
    I find what you both are putting out there to be resonating, helpful and thought provoking and I thank you for thinking of this – putting it all together and doing what you are doing for intuitives!!!

    • janet
      Reply

      Hi, Janet here… another layer “up the ladder,” I have found health by being basically eating raw vegan!
      Since I was raised raising animals for meat etc, as well as gardening, I know that from the “ladder rung we lived on,” we loved our cow & cared for her as a family member (Daisy, not Bessie!!)

      Janet, try going into the abstraction mode and realize that one person’s (cow slave) is another family’s pet… so watch this for its example, not for the cultural connotations!
      Good luck! It was worth watching~
      Janet

      • janet
        Reply

        Hi Janet,
        Thanks for recommending that I put to one side the ‘fact’ that all cows ‘organic’ or not (unless they are family pets) are ‘cow slaves’ and –just look at the video – illustratively. Appreciate your comradery, Janet!!

  • antonia
    Reply

    Janet – Thanks for the well-wishing! Piper has been a real eye-opener for me in many ways.

    In response to your comments about not watching the webinar, considering you took the time to articulate them here, I’m assuming you’re open to me introducing an alternative perspective.

    Not to veganism, of course – this is not a blog on nutrition and diet, nor am I an expert on the subject.

    However, I do consider myself an expert on human models and systems of thinking. Over the course of coaching people in both achievement and happiness, I’ve noticed a pattern develop.

    We all have the ability to take in information without making judgments. We all have the ability to make judgments and determine the value of that information. And, while we frequently do these things so close together in chronology that it almost feels simultaneous, they are actually two very distinct mental processes that are happening inside of our minds. That is to say, we can take in information without EVER evaluating that information, and we can make snap judgments without actually taking in new information.

    My observation has been that those who make the best, most sound evaluations and judgments do so after fully taking in information and seeing a complete picture before evaluating or judging it. They have the most well-rounded, thoughtful beliefs and are generally the most grounded and centered.

    When people don’t do this – when they jump to conclusions at the first sign of something offending a pre-selected belief – they often end up down a road which starts with confirmation bias and ends with what could be called a Reality Distortion Field – a bubble for seeing the world only as the person wants to see it.

    Interestingly, in this particular example, the illustration I used has nothing to do with agenda or social opinion on farm animals. It’s simply the illustration used by H.I. Hayakawa – the writer of the book I reference in the webinar – to help one understand how humans process varying levels of abstraction, and where they like to ‘hang out’.

    As an Intuitive, it makes sense that you would see principles and ethical implications in many places other people may take for granted. That’s part of what defines you as an Intuitive! Never give that up, and never apologize for it.

    However, be careful not to bow out of conversations too early and/or stop taking in information, even if you suspect it will contradict a well-loved belief or position. In fact, SEEK information that does so. Sharpen the sword through the check-and-balance system of differing opinions! In doing this, you will be the best version of an Intuitive that you can be.

    Thanks for your support!

    -Antonia

  • CandyTurner
    Reply

    Antonia ~

    Brilliant response. I also have a habit of shutting down as soon as something is said that goes against the grain. Applying your advice will help me listen more and educate myself. I may never be convinced that turning 50 is an automatic milestone for becoming sickly and getting on a pill merry-go-round, but I’ll get a clearer understanding of the mindset of a person that believes that, and may possibly come up with an approach that’s not offensive.

    Thanks for your clarification!
    Candy Turner

    • Kirsh
      Reply

      Elodie is going straight into the baby name scieton of my brain :DIf it were not my name, I would call my daughter Laura. I just like it a lot 😀 The boyfriend is determined to name any future kids with Irish names. The hell we are – they are so hard to spell! It’s hard enough confusing foreigners with his name – Fionntan (actually pronounced Finn-tann). Saying that my sisters Irish name Nuala (New-ala) is pretty straight forward

  • Michael
    Reply

    Antonia-

    Great model. Thank you for the webinar.

    So sensors like concrete examples..but what sort of topics do they like to talk about? Just stories of the past? Maybe an imagined future in vivid detail?

    Best,
    Michael

  • Peggy
    Reply

    Antonia
    I think this is a great model and I realize you borrowed it from the book. Just thought I would point out, I am an intuitive and totally get the ladder concept. However, since sensors are so concrete and literal, I believe a model that was horizontal instead of vertical would work better. Being higher vs lower on the ladder might feel like an insult to someone who is a more literal thinker. I might be wrong, but I am an administrator over approximately 20 people – every single one is a sensor. I’ve had to learn to understand the way they perceive things. This just stood out to me.

    • Tracey
      Reply

      Agreed. The higher/lower language and the fact that it is a vertical model makes me kinda itchy. Or, if it’s going to be a vertical model, wonder if the ladder would make more sense as a pyramid, where the sensing/concrete ideas provide the solid foundation necessary for the intuitive/abstract above it.

      I guess I’m still struggling with trying to understand whether S/N are preferences on either end of a spectrum or if N is actually more evolved. And if N is somehow more evolved, is it due to being in the minority and being apt to excel at both ways? Or is it a state that is somehow objectively more evolved?

      As a sensor surrounded by mostly intuitives in my daily life, I’m often inclined to feel all alone in holding down the fort and keeping everyone from constantly reinventing the wheel. I’m amazed at how often I have to “fill in” missed details and anticipate consequences where the Ns in my life seem to have blind spots or poor memory of past failures, and they often get themselves into trouble by not fully vetting their ideas before implementing them. I do think that sensors can absolutely benefit by “growing up” the ladder, but I think it’s dangerous to assume that intuitives have mastered all the steps on the way up, when often it would benefit them to “grow down” and make sure they have a solid foundation for their ideas.

      Hope any of this made sense. I am sort of new to personality type theory and know I have a lot to learn. I love your site and podcast and am exploring my way through.

      • Charis Branson
        Reply

        Thanks for your comments! You both bring up an interesting idea. I can see how the Ladder Concept could be off-putting to some.

        I really like the simile of the pyramid that Tracey recommended. Not only does the Sensation world provide the foundational structure for Intuitives, but it also represents how many more Sensors there are compared to Intuitives.

        Based upon your Sensor perspective, Tracey, maybe we should call it the Tower of Babel. Since those at the top can sometimes have their heads in the clouds. 😉

      • Lisa
        Reply

        This was a lovely comment, thank you. As a Sensor, I often feel “less than” the Intuitives. No doubt this is my own growth step to work through, but this brings such a great perspective to the conversation.

  • Alan
    Reply

    I think the pyramid could make sense but is mostly based on the fact that abstract communications are based on concrete languages. So it looks like you need the bottom part of the pyramid to reach the top.

    However I’m not sure that it applies to the concept of abstract/concrete thinking.

  • Alice
    Reply

    I would love more feedback on how intuitives can better connect with sensors. This seems to be a major sore spot and area of misunderstanding in my relationship with my mom who’s ISFP (I’m INFP). I can see her shut down when I start talking about abstract theories or ideas I’m interested in. We both love traveling and animals, so I try and focus on those topics when we’re talking… Any other recommendations on how an intuitive can be more engaging for sensors?

    Thanks.

    • Carrie
      Reply

      Alice, I am an INFJ and I too would love to learn how to communicate better with sensors, hence the reason I am on this page. Most of my family are sensors and I find it difficult to relate to their concrete, as I see it, black and white reasoning, but I would like to learn. Thanks for your comment.

  • Maham
    Reply

    You don’t really mean what you said in the end did you? Intuitives and sensors can’t have great relationships, it’s like baring your soul, for both of them.

  • Alyssa
    Reply

    Antonia,
    Thanks so much for your insightful quick tips for successful communication. I am an ESFP and my fiance is an ENTJ. We both have an understanding of personalities and grace for the other’s way of thinking which helps avoid many challenges, but I definitely still struggle with the abstract vs concrete daily conversation. Your point about intentionally asking iNtuitives ‘Why’ and ‘What if’ questions was a lightbulb moment for me. I will definitely start putting that to practice!
    Love the work you do with PH!

Leave a Comment