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In this episode, Joel and Antonia talk about the stages of an intuitive awakening and call for you to share the stages of your awakening story.
In this podcast you’ll find:
- Intuitive Awakening program
- Intuitive Awakening Community
- Sensors can have an intuitive awakening.
- Everyone has intuition somewhere in their cognitive function stack.
- We foresee a wave of Intuition much like the recent introvert wave.
- The intuitive awakening is going to happen on a societal level, but it also occurs on a personal level.
- What stages of an intuitive awakening have you experienced?
- 25% of the population in intuitive – 75% is Sensor.
- The world is set up for the majority of the population – Sensors.
- It’s like being left hand dominant in a right-hand dominant world.
- Intuitives are always going to feel kind of alien.
- Intuition may show up as intelligence or awareness.
- You may feel more aware and intelligent than everyone else at times.
- Other times, you may feel utterly inept with things other people do with ease.
- You think different. You see things others don’t understand.
- The first level of the intuitive awakening is Pre-awareness.
- This is where someone knows on some level that they are different.
- a lot of people live their entire lives in this pre-awareness level.
- Some intuitive blending may occur at this level.
- Intuitive Blending: The tendency to ignore your intuitive abilities and try to blend in with others.
- Ignoring the pattern recognition or doubting it because other people don’t mirror it back.
- SPs in the pre-awareness phase call themselves Instinctive.
- SJs in the pre-awareness phase define themselves as Creative.
- For some intuitives, the pre-awareness phase can come with some bitter narrative because of the feeling of isolation and alienation.
- Once someone awakens to the concept of intuitive vs sensation, most intuitives see it as a game changer.
- It explains why they have always felt different.
- The iNtuitive/Sensor dichotomy is powerful.
- Like the Introvert/Extravert dichotomy.
- Once people realize why they feel different, they tend to blame the other side.
- Introverts blame extraverts for making them feel flawed.
- Intuitives blame sensors for the same thing.
- Once we go from pre-awareness to actual awareness, it is the intuitive awakening.
- A lot of people get stuck here, too.
- “I’ve been oppressed my whole life!”
- Not all Extraverts are sociopaths.
- It is hard when someone is in pain not to project intent.
- Most things are not a people problem; it is a system problem.
- Gregory Bateson “When we don’t see systems, we break them.”
- Once someone becomes aware that their mind is wired differently, it is easy to go from bitterness to superiority.
- Superiority gives us an emotionally satisfying hit.
- This level of awakening is merely awareness. Not a lot of effort involved.
- Another part of this stage is the awareness that there are others out there like you.
- The next phase is to move into skill development with your intuition.
- There are two flavors of intuition – Extraverted and Introverted Intuition
- Skill development puts practical discipline with your intuition.
- It’s not about raw talent.
- The second level is about the raw talent. That is why there is bitterness.
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Data, Information, Knowledge, Wisdom
- Data = Pre-awareness —> Unconscious Incompetence
- Information = Intuitive Awakening —> Conscious Incompetence
- Knowledge = Applied information —> Conscious Competence
- Information has limitations.
- Having info at first feels like a game changer, then it doesn’t.
- Once we pass the relief phase, information stops doing anything for us.
- Info doesn’t move the needle on happiness or improving a person’s life, especially if there is bitterness.
- Just because you are intuitive doesn’t mean your intuition is always right.
- Push it to its limitations. Allow it to fail, then calibrate. Push again.
- It isn’t just a god given right; it’s a muscle that requires exercise.
- You know in which context your intuition does the best.
- Developing judging processes compliment our intuition.
- Intuition is limited without those judging processes.
- Self-esteem develops in this third level of skill building.
- The final stage of the Intuitive Awakening – Intuitive Integration.
- Wisdom = Intuitive Integration —> Unconscious Competence.
- After the skill development, we integrate intuition in our entire persona.
- The ebb and flow in a world that isn’t designed for you.
- The world is getting more complex.
- Our honed and skilled pattern recognition will help the world become a better place.
- Wisdom knows when to use knowledge.
- Sometimes your intuition isn’t the right tool for the job.
- You can tell somebody has integrated their intuition when the world around them is accommodating to them.
- You stop seeing the world as a Sensor world tailored only to Sensors.
- You create an intuitive world around you.
- There are plenty of opportunities to craft the life that is right for you.
- Stop apologizing for yourself and seeing yourself at the receiving end of other people’s behavior.
- Start seeing yourself as a creator of your reality.
- Recognize what in your life needs to change to accommodate your intuition and what doesn’t need to change.
- In integration, we loop back to pre-awareness and stop seeing the distinctions in the world.
- We integrate all the aspects of life and realize that all of us have some level of intuition and sensing.
- Sensors may start out denigrating intuitives or wish they were intuitive.
- “Don’t think I’m not smart just because I’m a Sensor.”
- There can be some pain in the pre-awareness phase for Sensors, too.
- Their awakening is that they have a form of intuition themselves.
- Skill development can come with visiting their intuitive process and exploring the tension between it and the Sensing function.
- Make space for the intuitives in your life to shine.
- Sensors can also use intuition as part of their aspiration.
- They are going to get messages from the intuitive part of them.
- ESFP Profiler Training student teaches language.
- Introverted Intuition is usually really good at understanding the abstraction of language.
- The ESFP integrated her intuitive part by teaching language in a more interesting, physical way.
- Spanish Lessons with Emily
- In pre-awareness, sensors may either reject their intuition or overvalue it.
- In integration, a Sensor can calibrate their intuition and know when to listen and when to reject.
- If you are a Sensor that feels you have gone thru an intuitive awakening, please tell us your story.
- Is there a phase we missed in our discussion about the intuitive awakening?
- Share your story.
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I am a spiritual director, meditation teacher, INFJ. I was a scientist, now Im a mystic. I use my sensor thinker very well – its what the culture and science coursework cultivated. In my 40s I ran into the Christian mysics and they spoke my native language…intuition. I was taking spiritual direction training at the time and we all took a Myers Briggs. All 30 students were NTs or NFs. I later did a small research project to see if intuition and mysticism correlated. They did. Mystics are always intutitors (either F or T). Intuitors are not always mystics – maybe they never read the mystics or encountered a more poetic or mystical text – or they did (the Eastern religions are very intuitive) and they didnt relate that to mysticism or intuition. So, when I learned I was very much intuitive and feeler it explained all kinds of disparities between my mother, bother, husband – all of whom are Thinkers – 2 sensor thinkers and one intuitor thinker. My other bro is SF and I can totally understand our differences also. Its been very very helpful to me to be able to embrace my INFJ and also “see” my ST. So my main point is this: when we talk about spiritual growth, spiritual deepening, it means to move toward a greater balance of Myers Briggs functions and because Ns are only 1/4 th of the populations and we have all been encultured to use our ST, spiritual practices like meditation drive us within – toward the NF. So finding your intuitor/feeler is the goal for moving toward what we spiritual folks call nondual perception. The feeler is cultivated in order to expand our capacity for compassion toward others….see the Buddhist literature and work going on through Mind and Life and the Max Plank inst.
Thank you sso much for all your do, Joel and Antonia!! Understanding Myers Briggs has helped me tremendously to know myself and to better understand others and be able to counsel my clients effectively. I talk to MANY INFPs who really do feel like outcasts and because they are care givers, they are burned out and often depressed because they cant relate through their feeler to the world in general.
Intuitors – if you ask yourself habitually, “What does that mean?” as you go through life, you are using intuition. Meaning is all about intuition – it is beyond the concept/symbol/fact and into the context. Value and meaning are intuitive capacities. Thanks again! I’ll share this with my intuitive friends on my Ecumenicus Facebook page!!! Love, Peggy
It is not easy for me to write in response to the podcast but I want to do this because I respect your call for us to share our stories about our intuitive awakening and because I think you’re right about the need to bring awareness to intuition on a major level.
I had been doing searches that related to disintegration of friendships & relationships, introversion, and the general continued alienation I had been feeling when I stumbled onto Personality Hacker. It took me a little while to do the personality test but I finally did it and came out as an INFP. In terms of the pre awareness phase y’all mentioned in the podcast, I would describe my feelings upon learning that I was an INFP as Complete Liberation first. This new insight explained so much about my life and in a good way. I felt proud that I was always a person who just did what I felt was right for me even as a young child and throughout my adulthood. In fact, I remember thinking as a high schooler and college student that the whole point of life was meant to be that we all go out and do what feels right to us. I took Latin in college as my foreign language because if felt right and because I wanted to yet I watched my friends take spanish while they hated it – I wondered to myself, why would they do that?
After the Liberation part of my awakening I slipped into Sadness. I thought about all the relationships in my life that had suffered deeply because of my shortcomings and my cluelessness about myself. I frequently hurt my ex girlfriend with a sharp tongue because I had a wealth of information against her that I racked up and self righteousness at my disposal when an argument began; she once told me that I could slice people up verbally when I got going. Had I been a healthy version of myself I would have understood her needs as well as mine. When she tried to talk to me I couldn’t hear her.
Regarding the skill development part, as I carry on throughout my day I feel that I am in full authenticity mode where I don’t hesitate to touch on a semi serious or serious topic with my clients that tie into our casual conversation. Meaning, after general pleasantries when I get to their house in the morning to work I might tell a quick story about parenting, kid’s different needs or my concerns for my niece and nephew. I work as a contractor and I am around families very often so I have moments in brief conversations with the homeowner where I’ll share insight about my thoughts on how our kids today are up against a litany of challenges like being heard in our overly busy culture when they are needing to talk and digital life addictions that even their parents contend with themselves. How can we teach kids healthy balances with a digital lifestyle when adults themselves are fully addicted? There are other topics that I hit on too but these have been on my mind a great deal lately and I’ve been in a number of homes recently that have young kids.
I would say also, in terms of my skill development, that the few friends of mine that really know me know that I can’t help but go to deep subjects that are on my mind if we are having coffee or hanging out. I have these concerns all the time about how we as a culture are in no way able to keep up the technological explosion and it is diminishing human relationships of all types. Most people don’t even answer my phone calls anymore; but they’ll respond to my call with a text message and send me 4 pages of text as a substitute for talking on the phone. I have concerns about that – it’s not because those folks are introverts either. They don’t fear talking on the phone. They just have become accustomed to their overly busy schedules/days/lives and our connection suffers. But I train myself to give space when I make attempts to see my friends & connect in real life and they don’t reciprocate – I know some of these ladies quite well and I know some of the pressure in their lives so I exercise compassion from a distance. Then I eventually reach out again in a meaningful way saying directly that I’d like see them and when we meet up they get the sense that I intend for us to have a high quality moment. They know I have a lot on my plate as well, creatively speaking, but I also live a very simplistic lifestyle. I don’t have cable and I don’t have a tv. When I sit down face to face with them they can really see it in my eyes that I am deeply grateful that they took time out of their day to hang out. I say it exactly that way too – “It means alot to me that you took time out of your busy day to have this moment. I’ve missed you”. I talk that way to my niece and nephew also – I tell them directly what’s on my mind and how it relates to them specifically; it comes out in a deep way, I can’t help it. I look them in the eye and it’s as if there is an energy exchange between us when that happens. I can tell that they love our visits. A fifteen year old girl and 13 year old boy don’t always get excited to see their family members come to town so I feel like they understand my genuine love for them. I’ve always been this way with them so we have been nurturing meaningful love for each other for a good while. (I didn’t know until recently that it related to my intuitive personality). That’s important to me as an intuitive: I go out of my way to express myself to people I love where they understand how much I value them. This includes my Dad who has a history of being non communicative to me for years. But I still believe in doing my part.
My thoughts are that I keep seeing the painfully negative effects of our culture becoming overly busy & hopelessly addicted to technology while I stand in the windstorm thinking of ways to teach those I love how to slow down and value this life meaningfully. And it’s more than that but I can’t go in to it right now. I’ve said plenty.
For me, the integration is a lonely place to be yet a rewarding place to be. I can see the people in my life who are caught up in life at a frantic pace and I miss them all the time because it is not feasible to spend the time you want with those you love – they are in their life just as I am in mine. I keep returning to the notion of people being amongst each other because that is where real experiences reside…that’s where we really get to know each other. My story drastically changed when I stopped shutting people out and began letting down my barriers. More importantly, I began to open up and talk intimately with people I trusted and who cared for me. This set in motion a wave of near miraculous situation after situation. If only you knew.
Antonia, I would like to add to your wisdom quote by saying this: A smart person knows what to say; A Wise person knows whether or not to say it. I don’t get it right all the time but I certainly try hard.
This is such a powerful podcast with a lot of insight. Thank you :-).
I have recently started learning about cognitive functions, but it has been really helpful to learn how my brain is wired!
I am an INFP so Ne is something I am trying to develop. I’m still a little confused by what it looks like, and how to develop it but the resources here are very helpful!
For me, I never really thought much about how or why I was different. I just thought I had different interests. Growing up (and still) I always seemed to prefer interesting conversations over things like sports.
For the most part people embraced who I was so that was nice. I suppose my family is predominantly sensors, but I do have a grandpa that’s an INTP, and my dad has some intuitive tendencies so it was never too bad. Any challenges I had probably came more from connecting with peers as I never really had a lot in common with them.
Now that I am learning about Ne, and the importance of developing it, I have been working on that. One thing I have done is start taking acting/improv classes. It’s a lot of fun, and is helping me learn to communicate and be in the moment.
Thanks for all of your work here!
I can definitely relate to the idea of the pre-awareness phase as feelings of being “smarter” than other people without really knowing why. I felt like I understood things a lot faster and with less effort than most of my peers throughout high school and undergrad.
I’m an INTP, but when I was first beginning to dig deeper into the Myers-Briggs system, I had a difficult time deciding between INTP and ISTP. I think I had become very proficient at “speaking a sensor’s language,” and there was definitely a part of me that did not want to be different. Ever since settling on being an intuitive a few years, I have felt a lot of inner tension be relaxed. I am able to focus my efforts in personal development a lot more effectively, and I have a language to explain to myself why I see the world differently, and that it is acceptable (and in fact needed). Having the freedom to consciously exercise my intuition has been very rewarding for me.
This experience leads me to wonder if there is a step between the intuitive awakening and skill development, namely intuitive acceptance. Perhaps this is more a sub-step within the intuitive awakening (second step). Either way, I think an important change occurs not only in becoming aware that one is intuitive, but also in accepting and owning that fact for oneself.