Podcast - Episode 0273 - Root Causes Of Insecurity

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  • Brooke
  • May 22, 2019 at 2:15 am

  Wow great topic. Thoughts: yeah first thing is to define our terms. When I think of insecurity it relates to who I am not how I perform. As far as approaching a novel or failed situation, that I can see being tied to personaloty as far as anticipation of novelty versus fear of what’s unknown.
  However, I pretty much know myself, though I am optimistic for future growth and change. But sharing what I know about me, and risking rejection, is what causes “insecurity” in me. But I wouldn’t call that insecure, I call that fear. I look forward to the unknown in terms of mastery, so I am confident in my abilities to learn new skills.
  I also don’t ever feel a lack of secirity against threats. I have a masculine, or maybe a human, reaction (oh yeah I just remembered where you guys land on that other dynamic scale, I need to stop taking notes while listening and shut up and listen lol).
  Okay one thing I had wanted to say that came to mind awhile ago as I read the emails and listen to the podcasts is the tone will come off as more experienced and polished when there is a bit less meta. It is endearing and I think creates a powerful loyalty for the ones who stick it out, but the majority of consumers are accustomed to being presented with a finished project that has already gone through producers … which is a questionable standard for quality actually. Who the hell wants to be a lazy, obese consumer? Speaking of Joe Rogan, he struck out on his own and rejected the machine that edits and pre-approves blah blah
  I’m still taking notes while listening, I’ve gotta stop now, but nice to hear we are mostly in agreement.
  And I was wrong, don’t change a thing. Ya’ll are great. Of course I am one of the loyal core, not a marketing expert who could promise to deliver bigger numbers. But if it was me, I’d want to be real and insecure and maybe less wealthy with a few true admirers then to pull in huge numbers because I’ve made myself more appealing to more, beyond basic manners.
  But (last thing promise) that idea boils down to values of individualism versus values idolized by communal societies.
  Keep up the great work!

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  • Nondescript
  • May 21, 2019 at 5:11 pm

  You guys are usually awesome, but this podcast doesn’t stay on track. I stopped listening at some point because it was boring and meandering. Sorry!

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  • Brooke
  • May 20, 2019 at 12:55 am

  Hi Jessie,
  Was reading/relating to your comment as a fellow INFJ, and as far as making decisions, I don’t think that is a result of insecurity. In fact be secure in your role as the non-decision maker, if needed. Whatever comes naturally to you, is fine. An army has one commander, everybody else gets to support the leadership as soldiers. They aren’t less than him.
  The way I think of it, is I am comfortable being a solid supporter of good leadership. Bad leadership, it depends, but I am more likely to ghost than criticize. Absent any leadership, I have no problem stepping up to the plate, and I am confident of my ability to do so,partly as part of my personality and partly because I worked at it, studied, reading “Boundaries with kids” by McCloud and Townsend for example.
  Anyway, just my two cents sis. :)

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  • Greg
  • May 19, 2019 at 8:01 pm

  This is actually the first podcast of yours I have listened to but will not be the last. You touched on one idea that has been mulling around in my brain for quite a while and that is the media’s influence on our perceived personal safety. As just one example, then I was in school, we all got to school on our own. Some walked, some rode bikes, some rode the bus but very few got dropped off by their parents. After school we were expected to get out of the house and do things. I personally often played in the creek behind our house or during summer or weekends rode my bike to local fishing spots. The only rule was to be back or call by a designated time. As a parent today I feel an enormous social pressure to be with my kid or have my kid looked after every minute of the day. I feel I am being looked at as a bad parent if I do not. If I have my kid walk to school I perceived as putting him in harms way. In looking at why the perception of safety has changed I looked at what statistics I could gather and from what I can see we are living in a moderately safer society than what I grew up in. So my conclusion is that the 24 hour news cycle has exposed us to much more evil in the world. The same or even less evil is out there as when I was a kid but now we are more aware of it and comparing our safety to the safety of people thousands of miles away. It has gotten to the point that if there is a shooting in Florida it effects the security measures in California. When I was a kid we got local news and if something was particularly horrific we might hear about it on national news. Now every time someone gets abducted or molested or harmed within a 3000 mile radius we hear about it and it goes viral creating far greater insecurity than we had before. So I would say to sum it up that there is a far greater perceived threat because of the media (in the timeline from WW2 to the present) even though the actual threat is somewhat less, leading to a perceived insecurity about our safety. As they say, ignorance can be bliss. This is of course just my interpretation and I look forward to your thoughts next week on how this perception changes in different personality types. Thanks

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  • Adam
  • May 18, 2019 at 9:51 pm

  Oh this podcast struck a cord! I am also INFJ. I listened to the podcast at work feeling extremely unauthentic, disconnected, and unable to be completely present literally while you were talking about big companies not allowing these things to happen in their workspaces.
  Great conversation. I love what y’all are doing. Your podcast is a big deal to me. Thank you so much for producing it.