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In this episode, Joel and Antonia talk with guest host Christian Rivera about using your 6th cognitive function in your stack to break a loop. This episode (Part 4) covers the INFJ, ISFJ, ESFP, and ENFP personality types.
In this podcast you’ll find:
- Joel, Antonia & Christian Rivera from DOPEamine finish sharing hacks for ISFJs, INFJs, ESFPs, and ENFPs to break loops.
- Tune into the first 3 podcasts of this series to get the best out of this episode (links to: Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3).
- The ins and outs of a cognitive function loop.
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Overcoming loops for IxFJs:
- When your Introverted Thinking (Tertiary) bypasses your Extraverted Feeling (Auxiliary).
- Why detachment and criticism can take you over.
- What your Introverted Feeling (6th function) does for your compassion.
- The exercises that help you feel deeper than ever before.
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Hacks for ExFPs to break a loop:
- Knowing when you’re stuck in a loop.
- How your Extraverted Thinking (Tertiary) overshadows your Introverted Feeling (Auxiliary).
- Why you use manipulations while in a loop.
- How using your Extraverted Feeling (6th function) gets you closer to internal alignment.
- The relationship exercises you can do to kickstart your Feeling functions.
- Wrapping the series up. How each episode focused on particular needs:
- Ready for more from your 6th function? What’s next to develop it for more growth.
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Thank you Joel & Antonia
I just read through your book “personality Hacker”, I skipped 12 personality types. I have read and listen to a lot of your podcasts here, and I found this idea of using the 6th function to be wonderful. I found out that I have been using it to jump-start myself in a lot of circumstances without knowing about the theory.
A great example is when my proposal got rejected for obvious misunderstanding of the reviewer. The comments were so rude that I got trapped in my own loop, until I had the idea to consult one of my friend for feedback. This friend is a sharp and great mind, he always separates facts from emotions and lay out everything black and white, no gray area. I decided to send him and email; knowing my friend and given my own ISTJ tendency of making sure there is no ambiguity or possibility of misinterpretation of my idea, I set out to convince my friend of the wrong behavior of the reviewer.
I wrote the equivalent of 3 letter-page email and review it many time to the point I decided to not send the email. I found that I won’t be able to fully convince my friend, because my only goal was for my friend to tell me: “you are right, the reviewer behavior was wrong.” So I gave up on the email, found motivations behind the reviewer comments and the possible adjustments I could make to my proposal and it got accepted the next time.
I want to know how I can use this idea to jump-start my significant other that I will call MySo.
MySo is ENFP (that is my best guess), and I suspect that MySo is trapped in the Driver 3-years-old loop. MySo is not opened to learn this concept of 16 personality types and the 8 functions. We are into 1 year of counseling (we have change the counselor already) and it is not improving. We went into the counseling because MySo was convinced that there was something wrong with me that must be fixed. Out of respect, I accepted hoping that we will find solutions to the ongoing problem. MySo ran out of accusations and started making inconsistent claims that counselor is able to point out without asking me to comment. When It became clear that MySo’s behavior needs to be adjusted, it started another type of problems. I have to admit that I am not saint in the matter, I have lost patience with time and can be very reactive at time.
Coming to the loop, MySo has gotten into the manipulative behavior where MySo will use select facts to demonstrate how wrong I am, or to justify why we must absolutely do something that we can not afford. MySo will set unhealthy goals and when the goal is reached and consequences surface, MySo will take at me.
Listening to the podcast, I did not figure out how I can jump-start MySo. Is it possible? What type of conversation can I start that will lead to that jump-start?
This has been a very insightful series, thank you. I am an IxFJ and this particular podcast has given me a lot to think about.
I struggle with shows of hypercritical behaviour, which I hate. I never feel good about myself when I’m like this.
I’ve been doing a bit of reading on psychological projections and one of the exercises I’ve worked on is the following from Receiving Woman – Studies in the Psychology and Theology of the Feminine:
“A good test is to list in simple fashion what we see in the other that gets such a rise out of us. “I hate in so-and-so these things” – then we list the characteristics, ostensibly in the other, that we find so offensive. "
“Where there are faults, they belong to us in some way, not necessarily in exactly the same way we spy them in our neighbor, but in some version in us that demands conscious attention and effort to claim them. "
I’ve found this exercise to be extremely helpful in withdrawing projections but uncomfortable nonetheless. As Christian gave an exercise for IxFJs to do, it occurred to me that the exercise outlined in Receiving Woman works, in a sense, in the service of Fi. The discomfort that I have felt is that resistance you guys talked about. Using Ti (when it’s Ti abuse) doesn’t feel like an indictment on who I am as a person, it’s just me giving feedback. But tapping into what is really going on for me just brings to the surface emotions and motivations that are unacceptable to me because they’re not in line with what Harmony is supposed to look like.
Is Fi imperative for authentic Fe long term? It seems that’s the case to me.