Podcast – Episode 0037 – Personality Types and Relationships

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In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about personality types and relationships.

In this podcast on personality types and relationships you’ll find:

  • Personality types and personal psychology in relationships can be a very powerful tool in communication.
  • When we learn about personality types, it gives us the language to describe how we work and operate. You come to realize that you are not alone and that there are other people out there who thinks the way you think.
  • The moment you have this realization that not everyone sees you the same way other people do, you realize that other people are just being themselves naturally and that there’s nothing wrong with you.
  • The way we learn new information impacts all of our experience and how people respond to us.
  • Are you in a relationship with someone who wants to turn you like themselves?
  • Pygmalion Project – when we are attracted to somebody who is completely the opposite of us and we start to craft or turn them like us. In Greek mythology, Pygmalion was a sculptor who fell in love with a statue he had carved.
  • Stereotypes have a basis of truth. If you’re somebody that doesn’t fit the stereotype, there are many ways and things you can do to sort things through your personality type.
  • Based on the population breakdown of the Myers Brigs, majority of females have the ISFJ personality type.
  • Personality psychology can give you a whole new perspective of how you think and how the people you are in a relationship with thinks. Moreover, it helps you identify the similarities and differences and how you can communicate with them where you’re at.
  • If you are using Personality Types and Relationships to put people in a box where it dictates what and how should they behave, you’re using it the wrong way.
  • An intuitive is somebody who is interacting with the world using unconscious pattern recognition. Sensors are more interested on reliable and verifiable information. So they’re using their senses to tell them through direct experience what’s going on around them.
  • In any type of relationships, no matter how you give each other space and permission, issues still emerge.
  • There is a certain demographic that says sensors should never be in a relationship with Intuitives and vice versa (sensors should be staying with sensors and Intuitives should be staying with Intuitives). Although this is true in the context of compatibility and that more struggles and issues may occur, it’s just a matter of making sure that you’re not using a solution that is gross over-simplified. Doing this creates a rule that ceases you to be happy.
  • If you oversimplify and become dependent on the rules you created, you’re not going to lead to best relationship possible. However, if you use Personality Types and Relationships to help understand what the other person is going through, you are able to:
  1. Find a compatible person for you because you understand where they are coming from.
  2. When issues occur, you can utilize your understanding of the other person to meet them where they’re at.



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  • Tory

    Hey Antonia,

    This might be an off the wall question but the personality Hacker picture with the different color brain regions. Do they represent the regions in which the cognitive functions appear at. They say that Ti is a right brain function and I have tested ISTP in quite a few personality test but in one of those test I tested left brained dominant but in the picture accuracy is in the top left region of the brain.

    I have been doing research for over a year now first with Myers/Briggs and then Jung and I find jung fascinating. I had some doubts about my type because I took a few and I felt that ISTP fit, originally tested ISTJ but it didn’t fit. I continued to doubt myself until I took your genius style test and it finally clicked and I thank you.

    Sorry for the long reply, I guess I had more on my mind than I originally thought. I appreciate the work you and your Husband do.

    • Antonia Dodge

      My apologies for the delay in answering this, Tory.

      There’s no intended correlation between the colors we use and the brain regions. In fact, two of my favorite Myers-Briggs experts disagree on whether or not the brain regions have any actual significance. Lenore Thomson in her book “Personality Types – An Owner’s Manual,” she talks about how the cognitive functions are either ‘right brain’ or ‘left brain’, but Nardi in a conversation we had and through is EEG experiments believes that most functions utilize both hemispheres and much of the brain simultaneously.

      I think I favor Nardi’s approach (as he’s witnessed things like Introverted Feeling lighting up the brain in a ‘halo’ effect when in active listening, thus utilizing both hemispheres), but I still understand what Thomson is going for in her analysis – almost more of a metaphor.

      I say all that to indicate that I’m waiting for more information on exactly how the cognitive functions work within the brain. 🙂

      Thanks for the question!


  • Brandi

    Brilliant. Best ever especially discussion about sensors dating intuitives and vice versa.

  • Kirk

    As always, the information is so enlightening. Thank you for your continued work. Keep it up!

  • Liz

    Hi my names Liz.

    I like your podcast because it has helped me explain how I think and how I can’t help it. INFJ.

    I have tested my son and some coworkers. The results made sense. I could tell my son was very different than me. He’s the most popular kid in class and he likes dancing and running. ESFP. It also helped me understand that I shouldn’t take it personal that he isn’t like me.

    At work I take into account culture, language, age, birth order and religion. I have studied art history for a long time (which include politics, culture and religion) and apply that to trying to understand ppl. For a long time I studied eastern and western astrology and that gave me another perspective.

    I see at least 5-10 ppl a day because I cut hair. So I think that anything that relate to and help them is great. My cousin (ISTJ) has a BA child psychology. We I like to discuss how ppl interact. Over all I greatly enjoy your podcast. I hope to take your intuitive awakening courses soon. I have shared your podcast in Twitter.

    Thank you.

    • Antonia Dodge

      Thanks for the feedback. Let us know if there’s a specific topic you’d like us to tackle. 🙂


  • Frederick

    Guys, in your opinion in a relationship which function is the most important to have the same as the partner?

    1) Intraverted / extraverted function
    2) perceiving function
    3) judging function
    4) perceiver /judger function

    I tend to think that the big one is the perceiver / judger function, i can’t see myself living with a partner that structures time in the oppostive way of me. Antonia and Joel you are both perceivers, right?

    • Antonia Dodge

      Hey, Frederick!

      It seems the one dichotomy that’s the most important to share is the iNtuitive or Sensory preference, so N/S. After that it seems that sharing the same J/P preference is helpful.

      Joel and I are both Perceivers. In fact, we’re very similar in type. He’s the first person I’ve ever been in a relationship with that is so similar to me in type, and it’s a great relationship.

      That said, there is definitely something to be said for having differences. “Polarity creates attraction,” so when I was single I didn’t disqualify anyone. 😉


  • Gary T

    Thank you. Loved it, very helpful to hear it all verbalized from other perspectives. 🙂

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